kissing

For other uses, see Kiss (disambiguation).

A kiss (from Old English cyssan "to kiss," in turn from coss "a kiss," perhaps onomatopoeic) is the touching of the lips to some other thing, usually another person. The study of kissing is called Philematology.

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Kissing as affection

In modern Western culture, kissing is most commonly an expression of affection.

Between people of close acquaintance, a kiss, often reciprocal, is offered as a greeting or a good-bye. This kind of kiss is typically made by brief contact of puckered lips to the skin of the cheek or no contact at all, and merely performed in the air near the cheek with the cheeks touching. Such kissing is a common greeting in European and Latin American countries between a man and a woman or between two women but also by two men in the Middle East^{citation needed]} and parts of Europe. People sometimes kiss children to comfort them or show affection, and vice versa.

As an expression of romantic affection or sexual desire, kissing involves two people kissing one another on the lips, usually with much more intensity, and for a considerably longer period of time. In more passionate kissing couples may open their mouths, suck on each other's lips, or move their tongues into each others' mouths (see French kissing). Sexualised kissing may also involve one person kissing another on various parts of the body.

In romantic and sexual kissing, the physical sensations are often of primary importance. One might find it stimulating if their partner moved their tongue in small circles against their own, or bite the lips gently.

Kissing as symbolism

When not an expression of affection, a kiss is a largely symbolic gesture in that the purpose of the kiss is to convey a meaning, such as salutations or subordination, rather than to experience the physical sensations associated with kissing. Kisses on the cheek as salutations are traditional in many parts of continental Europe, and the number of kisses, alternating cheeks, depends on which region one comes from.

Kissing may also be used to signify reverence and subordination, as in kissing the ring of a king or pope. A kiss can also be rude or done for the sake of irritating or proving one's superiority. A rude kiss or a kiss with a smack is referred to, in the United States, as a buss.

A more ominous use of the kiss is as a symbol of condemnation as may be observed when a crime lord kisses an underling, in effect imposing a death sentence upon that person, the ultimate "goodbye kiss" or the "kiss of death". Indeed, Judas is said to have betrayed Jesus with a kiss.

The term Kissing Hands is used to formally describe the appointment of the senior state figures to office by British monarchs. Though in the past, the monarch's hand was actually kissed, this is no longer so. When figures such as the British Prime Minister, cabinet members and diplomatics are formally appointed, they are said to have Kissed Hands. (Kissing the hand is still practised as a romantic flourish, especially in Latin countries.)

In internet and IRC chat, kiss is expressed by the characters xx, <3, or the :-* smiley.

When someone has done something magnificent for another person, that person may sometimes say, "I could just Kiss you!" because of their gratefulness, and not actually do it. This is commonly done to express complete gratefulness among friends who are either same sex or moderately close friends to one another.

Other uses

The term is also used for expressions of affection that do not involve the lips. The "Eskimo kiss" is executed by the two individuals gently rubbing the tips of their noses together — in the Māori culture of New Zealand this is called a hongi. A "butterfly kiss" consists of two people putting their eyes close to each other and fluttering their eyelashes upon one another's. A caterpillar kiss consists of two people rubbing their eyebrows together. Caterpillar kisses often give way to butterfly kisses.

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A kiss can be "blown" using actions of the hand and the mouth. This is used to convey affection usually while parting, when the partners are physically distant but can view each other. Blown kisses are also used when a popular person wishes to convey affection to a large crowd or audience.

Asymmetry in kissing

In order to avoid clashing noses, a couple will often turn their faces to one side or another when kissing, so that their heads are at an angle from one another. Often, to make this more comfortable, one person, sitting upright, will support another, perhaps across their lap and in their arms, thus combining hugging and kissing. The person supporting the other is most likely taking the more active role in kissing the other. Writing in Nature, psychologist Onur Güntürkün observed couples kissing in public places such as airports and parks, and showed that the direction of turning is more frequently to the right than the left by a 2:1 ratio. Güntürkün ascribed this asymmetry to a neonatal right side preference [1].

The anatomy of kissing

Kissing is a complex behaviour that requires significant coordination. It takes a total of twenty muscles working cooperatively to kiss. The most important muscle involved is the orbicularis oris muscle; it is used to pucker the lips and informally known as the kissing muscle. The tongue can also be an important part of the kiss.

Kisses in history, art and literature

• The Diocleia festival at Megara in honour of Diocles, lover of Philolaus; A kissing contest was held in which the boys would kiss a male judge, with a wreath awarded to the one with the best kiss.^[1]
• In the gospels, Judas betrayed Jesus with a kiss — a subversive use of the kiss, as it is a symbol of affection.
• The Romans distinguished three types of kiss: osculum, a friendship kiss on the cheek; basium, a kiss of affection on the lips; and suavium, a lovers' deep kiss.
• Contrary to popular belief, Lord Nelson, British naval commander, did not offer as his last words the line: 'Kiss me, Hardy'. The alternative words of 'Kismet, Hardy', often suggested as Nelson's actual last words, are equally false. Nelson's final words were, in fact: 'Drink, drink. Fan, fan. Rub, rub,' a request to those with him to relieve his heat, thirst and pains.

• In the fairytale Sleeping Beauty and the Greek myth of Pygmalion and Galatea, a romantic kiss is used by a male to awaken or breathe life into a female, which feminist critics have interpreted as symbolising the suspect idea that women don't have much of a life unless their sexuality is awakened through the attention of men. The Matrix turns the tables on this motif when Trinity kisses the sleeping main character Neo, bringing him back to life at the end of the movie.
• In the Frog Prince fairytale, it is the male who is transformed from frog to man by a romantic kiss.
• Gustav Klimt painted a work entitled The Kiss.
• The Turkish singer Tarkan's 1997 hit song Şımarık has a chorus that ends with two kiss sounds. A cover version performed by Australian Holly Valance is even titled Kiss Kiss.
• Auguste Rodin created the sculpture The Kiss (Le Baiser).
• In Lady and the Tramp, while Lady and Tramp were eating either end of a spaghetti noodle at the same time, their lips end up touching. Homages to and parodies of this scene have appeared in several movies, such as Hot Shots! Part Deux.
• US-based rock act Sixpence None The Richer released a single entitled 'Kiss Me'.
• The 1896 short film The Kiss (film) features a forty-seven second kiss; the short was considered scandalous at the time of its release, but has since entered film history as one of the most memorable early films.
• The French photographer Robert Doisneau shot a couple kissing by the Hotel de Ville (Paris) in 1950. The photo, later called "The Kiss", has became a classic since then, and the photographer was unsuccessfully sued by a couple alleging to be the subjects in the 1990s.

• In The Princess Bride, the narrator comments on Westley and Buttercup's kiss: "Since the invention of the kiss, there have been five kisses that were rated the most passionate, the most pure. This one left them all behind."

Trivia

• The longest recorded kiss took place in New York City, USA, on December 5, 2001, between Louisa Almedovar and Rich Langley. It lasted 30 hours, 59 minutes and 27 seconds.
• Kissing is the name of a town in Germany between Augsburg and Munich

See also

• Cheek kissing
• French kiss
• Eskimo kiss
• Holy kiss
• Hand shaking
• Spin the bottle
• Hugs and Kisses
• Making out
• The kiss of Judas Iscariot

Notes

External links and references

• On Kissing from the Kama Sutra, at kamasutra-sex.org.
• First Kiss Memories Stories of first kisses, often seen as a rite of passage to adolescence
• Advice on how to kiss
• Advice on first kisses
• First Kiss, Last Kiss, Best Kiss and Worst Kiss at h2g2
• howstuffworks.com -Very comprehnsive resource